Posted by 22 days ago. 'After a few hours of staying at mine, my son says he wants to go home and doesn’t want to stay overnight.' Soon after, my parents’ marriage fell apart and my relationship with my father was built on letters and gifts he sent me from around the world — Italy and Germany mostly, where he lived out most of his 25 year career in the Army. or get to know my parents. I [20 F] don't want a relationship with my father [56 M], but he's not abusive or toxic. My behavior was a reflection of my own fear that you might not succeed. This has led to a great deal of confusion. I don't know how to talk about it, but I find it hard to respect and want to spend time with a man that abused my mother and is an alcoholic digging himself an early grave. I've decided I don't want a relationship with my father anymore but I don't know what to do. Close. all i could remember from my early childhood years (grade k-5) was just tapping away on my stupid phone and not choosing to do anything else. Older children may become withdrawn, show disinterest or just be blunt and say, 'I don’t want to go'. But you’re doing just fine, and I don’t have to criticize your choices or actions. I really don't even know how to go about explaining this so apologies for the long post incoming. and i feel like those years i wasted on my phone instead of discovering what i like is the reason why i’m so awkward around other people. My father doesn’t want a good relationship with me; he wants a relationship that’s on his terms so he doesn’t have to work at it. Children express resistance to staying with their other parent in different ways. For many years, I was proud of him and the sacrifices he made to defend our country, to go to war, to leave his family, forget about his only daughter. Prudie counsels a letter writer who doesn’t want to visit a jerk of a dying father. A child under five may appear clingy, cry, scream or pretend to be ill. I think her* father is using a tactic mine does — the promise that this time, things will be different, when really he just wants to push her back into the role he thinks she’s supposed to be in.

1. I've decided I don't want a relationship with my father anymore but I don't know what to do. I saw my own father in LW’s letter. His mother died of diabetes and his father or liver disease (alcohol induced). By Danny M. Lavery.